Funny motivational speaker
Recently my friend (let’s call her Pam) sneeringly talked about a co-worker who scheduled time off because she needs “me time.” “She is lazy.” Pam announced, her irritation was palpable.
Instead of dismissing that negative emotion, we dug into it.
Pam prides herself on being an extremely hard worker. Her co-workers often ask her for help. She picks up extra work, visits her elderly father several times weekly, and volunteers for a soup kitchen. Pam schedules do-good commitments to everyone. Her exhaustion shows.
Once Pam tuned into her negative feelings towards her co-worker, she realized that her frustration was actually with herself. Deep down, Pam admired her co-worker for taking care of herself. She recognized the need to set boundaries and start making self-care a priority. She immediately joined an exercise class and said “no” to an additional project.
Focusing on optimistic thinking is good, but we should not just dismiss unpleasant emotions. Feelings like irritability, sadness, guilt, frustration, and anger often hold critical messages and offer crucial guidance for creating a healthy mindset.
Today, make a point of tuning into your unpleasant emotions.
Ask yourself, “If this emotion were a wise teacher, what is it trying to show me? “
Once you understand the message, create action steps to help release the feelings. Emotions, even sour emotions, often bring essential information for creating a better life.
What are your emotions telling you?