Funny motivational speaker
“Are you the one who made that fried chicken a few weeks ago? It was so crispy with just enough spice!” she exclaimed, turning away to wiping off her little girl’s hands.
“You brought the fried chicken? The mashed potatoes and gravy were homemade, right? It sure tasted good!” another woman said while walking her tray into the kitchen.
“I heard about the good fried chicken, but I missed it that night,” piped in a third woman while crumbling crackers into her chili.
These lovely comments caused me to research chicken tips to find an even BETTER fried chicken recipe. Next time, I’ll add stuffing and homemade biscuits to make the meal even better.
The rule of reciprocity explains why compliments are powerful for human beings. This rule basically says that when people receive a favor, they feel a sense of obligation to return the favor. Compliments are compelling because we are hard-wired to respond to fellow humans similarly.
Compliments improve performance:
These ladies’ kind words encouraged me to cook an even better meal for women’s shelter next time. Research shows that a single complement of a person’s performance or work will directly improve the skill or performance on that given task.
Compliments Boost Self Awareness:
I believe that I am a fairly good cook, but getting independent corroboration strengthened that belief. We get a better idea of how others see us when a compliment affirms or enhances how we see ourselves.
Compliments evoke generosity toward the giver:
Their kind words made me feel appreciated and included. Now I look forward to seeing those women again in two weeks. As predicted by the rule of reciprocity, praise fosters a sense of connection between the giver and receiver.
Tips for making compliments:
Make specific compliments:
The women’s particular praise about my crispy chicken and homemade mashed potatoes made me feel noticed and appreciated. Be detailed and precise in your compliments.
Make frequent compliments:
Look for good behavior and make compliments a normal part of every day. Compliments strengthen your relationships.
Make authentic compliments:
A compliment is not flattery. A flatterer gives to get while a complimenter gives to give. When complimenting someone, focus on others and keep in mind these simple tips.
Who can you compliment today?
