Funny motivational speaker Amy Dee’s blog about the coronavirus,
Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.
While grabbing some last-minute groceries, I overheard several conversations regarding the coronavirus.
Two college-aged guys complained about a concert being canceled, “I bought the tickets months ago. I can’t believe they canceled it over this. It’s not fair.”
A grandmother complained to the cashier, “I just want to hold my little pumpkin. It doesn’t seem fair. He’s my first grandchild, and I still haven’t met him yet. Now it will be months before I see him.”
A fellow speaker after listing the speaking events she has had cancel said, “My income supports my family. This just isn’t fair!”
The fact is, life is often not fair and, sometimes, we get fixated on the injustice of it all. Honestly, we have the right to feel upset when our plans get canceled or when our finances are hurt through no fault of our own. This coronavirus creates challenges for all of us.
But focusing on how unfair it is will not help solve the problem. Fair or not, this is our reality. Instead of focusing on the unfairness of it all, we need to figure out how to respond most effectively. Given this coronavirus reality, how can we best move forward?
Life is not fair.
Ask the daughter whose mother was killed by a drunk driver.
Ask the family whose home was wiped out by a tornado.
Ask the parent whose son died of an opioid overdose.
Lots of unpleasant things happen that are beyond our control. If our happiness relies on the fairness of life, we’ll be miserable because no one gets through life without having some random problem whack us alongside our head. But think about it, dealing with the trouble is hard enough without using up energy pouting that life shouldn’t treat us this way.
The world isn’t out to screw us over. The universe isn’t out to get us. We get caught up in storms, but even the most dangerous storm eventually ends.
Remember your power!
Your power lies in treating yourself with kindness, reviewing the damage, and figuring out how to move forward as positively as possible. When we expect life to be fair, we get stuck and slow our process to resolution.
There are difficulties we can’t control. We need to concentrate our energy on finding the best solution, not lamenting over how life should be.
Is clinging to the belief that life should be fair, impeding your chance at happiness? Even though this coronavirus is a bad thing, what can you learn from this experience? How can you use this time at home to improve your business, increase your gratitude or creatively help others in need?
When you push through hard times, you strengthen your adaptability, resilience, and self-reliance muscles. This strong inner core will help you next time bad news hits.
The only thing that makes life unfair it the delusion that it should be fair.