Funny motivational speaker Amy Dee’s blog about relationships;
The other day Steve and I had an argument we couldn’t resolve, so we gave each other the silent treatment for a few hours.
Instead of using my time to consider Steve’s side, I solidified my point of view with examples and facts. Bursting with self-righteous glee, I raced downstairs to reengage with him so I could “win”. But, before opening my big mouth, I remembered these three words “What’s most important?”
Being right means that the other person has to be wrong, and no one likes being wrong. Asking myself “What’s most important?” allows me some mental space to remember my priorities. In this space I can ask myself: Is this issue significant enough to continue arguing over? Will winning improve my relationship? Will it make me a better person? Will success improve the world or my life in any way?
This isn’t about being a pushover, it is about perspective. There are discussions worth having and arguments worth pursuing. This particular disagreement wasn’t one of them.
Throughout our lives there will be people who do things that frustrate or annoy us. It’s inevitable. But, how we choose to engage during these moments can have consequences in the present and the future.
So next time an argument gets you riled up, before you head into battle, ask yourself “What’s most important?”
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